Tuesday, January 31, 2023

Such a Fun Age

Such a Fun Age by Kiley Reid
Read January 2023 - Zoom Reading Circle



Wow!  This was quite a story!  It was a fairly quick and easy read but drew me in the further along I got.  At first, I didn’t really ‘like’ any of the characters (except, of course, for Briar) but I grew to like Emira the best of the main characters.  


It did seem a bit heavily written in the way that EVERY SINGLE STEREOTYPE was included, but that is what gave the book its power and pop.  You couldn’t help but see yourself and mistakes you had made, others, real life situations, in so much of it.  Each character encapsulated problematic characteristics of racism...  some more overt than others. 


I read in a review of this book that it was good at depicting ‘negative space’ which means the space between what we intend to happen and the consequences of our actual actions.  That makes a lot of sense to me.  Between what someones ‘means’ and and how it is actually ‘perceived’.  The author did a really good job of depicting that - from both perspectives and among all the characters. 


This is not a great book because I loved the characters and the resolution.  It is a really good book because it depicts so well the inner workings, thoughts and motivations of 3 different people and how their interactions fuel it all. 



Lines I highlighted in this book...


A text message from Laney was waiting on her phone. Is it okay if Ramona and Suzanne swing by with me tonight? They have girls too and they’re completely lovely. Feel free to tell me no if you just want one-on-one time! Alix rubbed the back of her neck and thought, Jesus fucking Christ. With both hands she texted, The more the merrier!


It’s like eating everything on your plate ’cause you think someone else won’t go hungry if you don’t. You’re not helping anyone but yourself.


“It completely fetishizes black people in a terrible way,” Tamra went on. “It makes it seem like we’re all the same, as if we can’t contain multitudes of personalities and traits and differences. And people like that think that it says something good about them, that they’re so brave and unique that they would even dare to date black women. Like they’re some kind of martyr.”


This was a video about racism that you could watch without seeing any blood or ruining the rest of your day.


This was a video about racism that you could watch without seeing any blood or ruining the rest of your day.


Believing that Kelley was the starting point of her adversity would always be easier than believing she’d simply slipped through an unlucky crack. This choice to believe otherwise, to pretend there weren’t coffee-colored letters pressed into her chest, would keep her close to him, even if staying close to Kelley meant holding a grudge for something that he never did.


I gave this book 4 stars out of 5.  Zoom Reading Circle gave it 3.8.  






Spoiler alert for what I wrote below... don't read if you don't want to see some of the pertinent plot points mentioned.  

I felt so sorry for Briar and wanted to yell at Alix to wake up and do better!  Kelley creeped me out... from the very beginning!  I felt he was quite unfair to Alix in his characterization of her in high school and her treatment of the black caregiver hired by her parents (Carlotta??)  I think Alix was not wrong to call the police on the high school kids who invaded her home without permission!  I mean, seriously!  BUT, Alix was flat out terrifying with some of her thoughts and actions toward Emira and Kelley!  She was way too obsessed with each of them in different ways and it was all tied together by her complete narcissism.  What a character!  And when she walked out and left baby Catherine alone at home I was literally screaming at the book!  However, did I think she ‘deserved’ what happened to her at the end with the live interview and Emira ‘breaking up with her’ like Kelley had?  Not really.  That was a bit over the top.  But I could understand it.  

Emira was a likable character mostly - I liked her more and more as the book went on.  She was struggling to find herself and wanted to ‘adult’ while all her friends were moving on.  That is a hard thing.  I can get that.  She truly loved and cared for Briar and was that poor little girls best lifeline.  To me the greatest tragedy of the book is that Briar would no longer have Emira in her life (and vice versa).  Emira is someone you do root for and hope she will be ‘okay’.  

Kelley weirded me out.  That scene on the subway where he talks about Emira being his girlfriend and they have this game where they pretend to not be was strange. He is a control freak who is out to prove how cool and ‘woke’ he is.  At the expense of other humans!  Creepy.  He may have grown into believing his schtick by his later years, but he was a weirdo for sure.  

Peter was nice but not really a focus.  Hope he loves Briar.  

Key points from other reviews 
Alix - entitlement and saviorism.  But also, I would say, narcissism.  And a bit of a send up of a rich white ‘woke’ woman from New York (probably quite accurate...)  Incredible at the end that we discover that Kelley hadn’t actually shared that awful letter but that she had decided to ‘continue with the narrative that best helped her’ for all those years, including in a face to face confrontation with Kelley himself?  Wow!  Nutso!  Agree with another review I read that said they would have liked to read something from the perspective of another character - Zara.  True! 


Author Kiley Reid on The Daily Show



I thought this was a good review of the book. 



How Lucky: A Mystery Novel

How Lucky: A Mystery Novel by Will Leitch
Read January 2023 - Zoom Reading Circle


This book grew on me.  It sort of reminded me of Rear Window - that movie with Jimmy Stewart that I love.  It is the story of a man named Daniel who is in a wheelchair because of a childhood disease and is unable to speak or move.  He lives independently, however, and has a contagious optimism mixed with some snarky humor that I just loved.  He has a job, a best friend, and a life he enjoys.  Then he sees a young woman get into a car in the street in front of his house.  When he hears that she is now missing he realizes he may be the last person to see her.  He tries to share what he knows with the police, who disregard him and don’t take the time to communicate with him and with others who are leading a search.  Only his friend Travis and caregiver, Marjani, understand what he has seen and try to help him.  Eventually he connects with the kidnapper and finds himself in mortal danger.  I admit those were tense scenes to read!  So this book has a bit of everything - small town vibe (great descriptions of a real college town and life), insight into spinal muscular atrophy (the debilitating disease Daniel has had since childhood) and random music and movie commentary and snippets thrown in (absolutely delightful!).  Very enjoyable book and different from any other that I have read.  Our Reading Circle book club chose this book because we wanted to read a book that featured a main character with a disability.  So glad we ran across this one!  

Bonus points for the title being the name of a John Prine song - and finding some of the lyrics to that song in the prologue!!  :D 


Notes and Highlights -

My life is nothing but small moments, and so is yours. We don’t live in a series of plot points. We should be thankful for that.

I’m condensing what was an extended discussion about Jeff Tweedy’s warmth and humanity for your benefit.

She was trapped once again by another man who wouldn’t listen to her, who wouldn’t even notice that she was trying to talk, until he decided he was finished.

One of the many annoying things about being disabled is the obligation I always feel to make you feel better about your reactions to me.

can be a lot to process. You just want to walk down the street, maybe grab a beer and catch the end of the Falcons game, and then wham, you’re contemplating how unbearably cruel life on this planet can be and wondering how any sort of kind and caring God could possibly allow a person to suffer so profoundly. As I said: I get it.

The world is a terrifying place these days. We’re all operating right there on the edge of tilt, all the time. This shit can just happen.

There’s a reason there aren’t any fifty-five-year-old terrorists, or at least there weren’t until they all started watching Fox News.

Grief, Mom discovered, was not a problem you could fix, a loose screw you could tighten, a math problem you could solve, a child whose pain you could comfort. It just sat there in your stomach and didn’t move. Sometimes it grew, sometimes it shrank, but it was always, always there. That was the hardest part, she said, harder than anything else, before or after. The grief doesn’t leave. It becomes a part of you. Either you learn to live with it or you die.

I am the lucky one in this regard. I get to go first. I get to leave before grief ever becomes the house guest that never leaves. I get to prance around this world, how lucky, not having to live with the ache of saying goodbye. That’s for them. I’m sad for them that they’ll grieve when I die. But I’m glad I won’t.


I have to include John Prine singing How Lucky... and bonus - around his kitchen table!  



Sunday, January 29, 2023

Puzzle #8 - MasterPieces - Travel Diary Cycling at Colmar - 550 pieces

Puzzle #8 of 2023
Finished January 29, 2023

Back to a good ole David Maclean!  Can't beat him for a puzzle scene.  :)  The Masterpieces pieces are not nearly the quality of (most) White Mountain, Cobble Hill, Gibsons or Ravensburger, but the puzzles are fun and OH THE POSTER!!!  I even had one piece where the little tip end didn't exist - just a thin paper backing. But I just put it up next to where it was supposed to go and I really don't care.  :D  ha!  LOVE THAT POSTER!!!  I have enjoyed every one of these Travel Diary series that I have put together.  This one looks to be another winner.








Can you see the missing tip lower center of photo (below) - along the inside of the bicycle rim.  No big deal, but definitely an indicator of lesser quality overall.  You get what you pay for.  :)


I had a mix-up along the top right border but got it figured out.  I had not located the two remaining border pieces and was attaching a few other pieces one piece off... No biggie - got it figured out when I looked closely and compared to the beautiful LARGE poster!!  :D





Finished it up - very pleasant puzzling experience.  Not the highest quality pieces, but good enough.  Not bad, certainly.  And the poster makes up for all of the downsides.  I really enjoy putting together Masterpieces puzzles. Colorful, engaging, fun.





Puzzle #8 of 2023
Finished January 29, 2023


Thursday, January 26, 2023

Puzzle #7 - Bits & Pieces - The Sewing Desk - 500 pieces

Puzzle #7 of 2023
Finished January 26, 2023


A lovely puzzle - image by Aimee Stewart.  I have been seeing this one in 1500 pieces and was very glad to get it in 500 since it is a Bits & Pieces puzzle.  I am a 500-1000 piece puzzle girl - not more.  And not only because I don't have a puzzle board big enough - I just don't want them that big.  (at this point anyway... who ever knew I would enjoy a Bits and Pieces puzzle at all??  And a 500 piece one!  ha!)   But I do believe that 500 piece Bits & Pieces could be the new sweet spot.  Just enough challenge but not crazy.  Don't know if I'll ever want to do a 1000 piece Bits & Pieces... But I am so glad my brain works better now with the wonky angles and offset image issues that gave me such a fit just a year ago.  I hope that means my brain is growing and expanding.  :)  So this was really a lovely puzzle and a lot of fun to put together.  A great palate cleanser after struggling at the end of that last one.










a fun, bright, colorful puzzle


Puzzle #7 of 2023
Finished January 26, 2023


Wednesday, January 25, 2023

Puzzle #6 - Ravensburger - Abandoned Series Deserted Department Store - 1000 pieces

Puzzle #6 of 2023
Finished January 25, 2023

I was clearly ready for more of a challenge after the 300 piece puzzle.  :)  This one should do it!  Took awhile to get the border put together.  I remember that Ravensburger puzzles are always much darker than they appear to be in the picture.  But that is okay - you just have to get your mind around the difference.  I do wish they had a poster - especially since they cut off the bottom right corner a bit and put that silly puzzle piece emblem at the top.  Just give us a poster!  Please!  This should be a fun and engaging puzzle and I look forward to working on it this week as time allows.  Starting 2023 well with puzzling!  So happy!















Whew!  Finally finished this one!  Granted, I didn't get to work on it much until about 3 days ago, but it was a bear to finish!  Up through the last 5 pieces I was still convinced that some wouldn't fit or were mistakes.  :)  I forget that Ravensburger colors just don't match up.  They are always much darker on the puzzle piece than they appear in the image - and the shades are even different.  The pieces are just darker overall so it is hard to tell as much distinction.  That can get tiring.  I can't see the pieces well enough to really ascertain any details so end up just trying shapes all over the place to see what will fit.  I did like the image, but by the end, I was ready to be done.  I think 2023 is already starting stressful enough that I will focus on happier and easier puzzles for a bit.  Not a terrible puzzle, but clearly not my favorite.  (Loved The Dressmaker's Daughter earlier this month!)  And ugh about no poster.

Saturday, January 7, 2023

Puzzle #5 - MasterPieces - A Night to Remember - 300 pieces

Puzzle #5 of 2023
Finished January 7, 2023

This was just a quick and easy.  Felt like I should do one more Christmas puzzle since I really wasn't able to do Christmas puzzles over the holidays.  So whipped this one out.  It was pleasant and nice - quality, image, etc.  Nice to do but will probably donate.  Doubt I would do it again.  But very pleasant and nice.  Going to have to figure out how to do puzzles next year at the holidays... don't want to miss out on all the wonderful Christmas puzzles again!!  One note - there was no poster in this box even though it is a MasterPieces.  It did not say there would be a puzzle, so no foul.  But why do they not put a poster in every puzzle?  I am thinking Buffalo is actually the very best at that...









Puzzle #5 of 2023
Finished January 7, 2023